Be your own cool person

Remember how carefree we were as kiddos? Do you really feel you are the same now? I assume most of you would deny, even I'd deny the fact that i haven't changed. Don't you think we have lost a bit of ourselves fitting in? Becoming so called "cool" people. After a long time of learning and un- learning what I've observed is that a real cool person is one  who doesn't believe in groupsim, doesn't judge, acknowledges people's presence, shares opnions, makes people comfortable and is happy with being comfortable in their own skin. Now, this is not a checklist but some qualities i saw in the people around me whom i really admire.

Today,  being cool is having a certain outfit, or a music style, and surprisingly being mean is considered cool too? And I'd be lying if I said that I didn't think it was cool. ( yes guilty as charged) 

Remember as kids, these things didn't matter. God knows how messy we used be, all we cared was about playing and jumping and singing at the top of our lungs.

 Well you didn't ask but I'll tell you a bit about me as a kid. Little me was a full funky badass kid who used to beat up kids for not playing with me ,dancing on fridays was the best thing I used to do. It was a whole celebration, you know? The first thing I did after coming home from school was to switch on the tv. These were the only things that I found worth back then but it all really transformed as i grew up and all I thought was about people ,what they will feel ,what they are thinking and thus my mind went into an endless loop of overthinking. In this pressure I lost my identity. I was just finding ways to fit in ,be like them or the people I considered "cool". I changed my music taste, the way I dressed, the way I spoke , this all turned me into a people pleaser. I just started running along with everyone in a race which had probably no finish line . But suddenly when someone asked me what did I really like- and even after standing and thinking for a full minute I couldn't come up with an answer? Because I  felt like i had nothing of my own, most of the things I liked were because other people followed a certain band , looked a certain way or watched a certain sitcom . It changed me when I met new people who owned themselves and were confident in the way they were. I was in awe of how they carried themselves , there was a nice pleasant energy around them which helped me stay calm and in the moment you know? Talking with them gave me the confidence to do something I really loved, through them I must say I rediscovered myself. Maybe i dropped out of the race for good or maybe me realising this was the finish line?

 Finally  I came to terms with the fact that famous people become famous because they accept themselves wholeheartedly. They are not scared to show their real inner self to the world. So just enjoy your moments and don't fall under pressure. If you feel like you're stuck , focus on yourself, your goals, you health, your mind and you'll find a way back out for sure.

Until next time<3

Parnika