Mirror Mirror on the wall

Have you ever looked at your naked body in the mirror? If yes, have you not complained about it? I assume almost majority of the people would have pointed out some 'fault' in their body. It takes us years to accept our body and to be comfortable in our own skin. But honestly don't you think, if someone wouldn't have pointed out our insecurities then we wouldn't  have been so self conscious? Isn't it wrong to point at someone's body and say something about it?

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From age ten till thirteen I was body shamed a lot. Sometimes directly and sometimes indirectly. I remember how my friend pointed out the fact that I take a lot of space on the bench which leaves her with no space to sit.
Not only this but once someone said that I  have very big lips and laughed at me. Honestly it did hurt at that point of time , like what's the issue having big or small lips ,all are beautiful regardless.
It's such an easy task to comment or judge 
someone, but we need to stop being impulsive and just think for a second before we say anything hurtful because these comments stay with you for a long long time.
Be it my color, body or lips people have said some or the other thing to me. It's unavoidable, it would be a lie to say I don't care because, I do. And yes, I get conscious. Whatever little confidence I have, crumbles when people point something out about me. I avoid social gatherings. I just can't stand these comments.
Sometimes I think if I would ever be able to match the image of the perfect sweet person they have in their minds. When I was fat , I was fat shamed and now when I have lost weight I get comments like "do you have anemia?". I've been called a weakling and things like I don't have any strength. How can strength be assumed on the basis of how I look? 

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 Sometimes we just have to accept ourselves the way we are. There's gonna be days when we feel low, have puffy eyes and then there's gonna be days with rosy cheeks and happy face. But, surrounding yourself with people who won't judge you on either of these days will keep you at peace . This beauty is going to fade anyways cause nothing stays forever. Back in the days when everyone used to roam naked there was no one to judge but now, as we got clothes to cover ourselves we have been divided into different shapes and sizes.
  I know that it takes time to disregard the society's perfect image of how a body should look and accept yourself ,but once you start trying, you will feel more connected to yourself. 
Earlier I felt like I was a stranger to my own body, it made me feel insecure, but not anymore. I have decided to look into that full length mirror, look at it fully, accept myself and love myself as I am like that favorite book you have with a missing cover.


THANKYOU<3
PARNIKA









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